yes, but women overwhelmingly expect this as a ‘minimum standard’ and woman dating/relationship advice is full of maxims that basically say your man is shitty if he can’t read your mind or he isn’t subordinate to your every random whim.
and lots of women believe this nonsense as gospel and verse and trying to tell them maybe they are self-sabotaging… doesn’t go over well.
part of the reason this advice is so appealing is because it removes any agency/responsibility/risk of rejection from the woman and puts it all on the man. it reinforces classic gender norms that women are to be silent passive mysterious creatures and all action/agency is entirely the realm of the man.
Agreed. It’s definitely appealing to not have to put in any work, but sabotaging every relationship and having to start over again and again because you expect mindreaders sounds absolutely exhausting.
Like I said, it’s about maturity and the wisdom to realize all that bad advice is bullshit. As a partner you can try to be the one to call her out on it and build good communication skills from the ground up, or you can recognize the pattern and move on to someone who is willing to explicitly ask for their needs to be met.
yes, but women overwhelmingly expect this as a ‘minimum standard’ and woman dating/relationship advice is full of maxims that basically say your man is shitty if he can’t read your mind or he isn’t subordinate to your every random whim.
and lots of women believe this nonsense as gospel and verse and trying to tell them maybe they are self-sabotaging… doesn’t go over well.
part of the reason this advice is so appealing is because it removes any agency/responsibility/risk of rejection from the woman and puts it all on the man. it reinforces classic gender norms that women are to be silent passive mysterious creatures and all action/agency is entirely the realm of the man.
Agreed. It’s definitely appealing to not have to put in any work, but sabotaging every relationship and having to start over again and again because you expect mindreaders sounds absolutely exhausting.
Like I said, it’s about maturity and the wisdom to realize all that bad advice is bullshit. As a partner you can try to be the one to call her out on it and build good communication skills from the ground up, or you can recognize the pattern and move on to someone who is willing to explicitly ask for their needs to be met.
yeah but it’s exhilarating putting yourself on a pedestal and waiting for your prince to come rescue you from yourself.
Are you ok?
I’m wonderful. I am just capable of acknowledging women are sexist, because I’m not sexist enough to think they can’t.
And these sexist beliefs often lead to toxic behaviors that are ultimately self-destructive.
Lol, moderator of /r Dating. If you are a woman, that is doubly hilarious.
Yes, women are capable of being sexist.
You seem a bit too interested in this topic?