• sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    11 months ago

    There is a very fitting song for this.

    Garbage - Stupid Girl

    Stupid Girl Lyrics

    [Verse 1]

    You pretend you’re high

    Pretend you’re bored

    Pretend you’re anything

    Just to be adored

    And what you need

    Is what you get

    [Pre-Chorus]

    Don’t believe in fear

    Don’t believe in faith

    Don’t believe in anything

    That you can’t break

    [Chorus]

    You stupid girl (Ah)

    You stupid girl (Ah)

    All you had, you wasted (Ah)

    All you had, you wasted (Ah)

    [Verse 2]

    What drives you on (Drives you on)

    Can drive you mad (Drive you mad)

    A million lies to sell yourself

    Is all you ever had

    [Pre-Chorus]

    Don’t believe in love

    Don’t believe in hate

    Don’t believe in anything

    That you can’t waste

    [Chorus]

    You stupid girl (Ah)

    You stupid girl (Ah)

    Can’t believe you fake it (Ah)

    Can’t believe you fake it (Ah)

    [Instrumental Break]

    [Pre-Chorus]

    Don’t believe in fear

    Don’t believe in pain

    Don’t believe in anyone

    That you can’t tame

    Basically, if this is a representative sample of this girl’s personality …

    (huge if there, this is a single 4chan post lol)

    … then she is a textbook narcissist, potentially to the point of being diagnosable with NPD if she doesn’t grow out of this attitude, get a reality check that actually sinks into the subconscious.

    A spoiled, pampered brat whose never been told no, who never gets any real, meaningful interaction or validation, and tries to fill that void with a grandiose self image, absurd overconfidence and privelege.

    Angelica from Rugrats.

    …And my take here would be the same if the genders/sexes were reversed, or some other combo.

    It is pretty not normal for anybody to have that kind of interaction with anybody else, to just boisterously state they could have ‘insert random person’, then have rando anon just flatly reply ‘sorry not interested’, … and then throw a giant hissy fit.

    I am seriously hoping this interaction occures between 12 or 14 year olds, but looking at the horror kaleidoscope that is social media these days?

    Yeah, could be anybody, any age, at this point.

  • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
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    11 months ago

    I mean, obviously fictitious and elatedly happy

    That being said, there really are people like that. I’ve been in that situation, and I’ve seen it happen plenty. Maybe not those exact words, but sometimes , yes “I could have you if I wanted”

    There really are people that are both so arrogant as to believe they’re that “good”, and so narcissistic that whether or not you’re interested doesn’t matter.

    Like, I’m not some kind of super studly dude. I’m big, and strong, but I’m also hairy, balding, have always had at least a little belly on me, wear glasses, and have a round face, so I don’t have those chiseled features that folks get wet over. But I do pretty damn good. My kind of look has a degree of popularity, and the mind inside the body makes it work. So this isn’t some kind of situation where everything is chasing me.

    That being said, it is really annoying how often some shitty excuse for a human being has assumed that I would just jump in the sack with them, much less anything more. And it isn’t even the stereotypical “hot babes” either. Just women that assume that because they have a pussy, a guy is going to fall into the damn thing. You kinda expect narcissism when someone is on the prowl, looking for hookups and arm candy. But when you’re at a casual dinner party, and they’re coming at you with that kind of thinking, it’s extra extra. I mean, it isn’t always women, but the women tend to be more insistent, and more about demeaning you than men are.

    When it’s guys, you make it clear you’re hetero, and it’s “oh, well then” and it almost always ends there, or with a simple “if you tried this, that might change”, and then they’re done.

    But the women that think that way? It’s like they pin their whole sense of self on the idea that they can have any guy, no matter what. And, if you aren’t the classically handsome dude, you’re insulting them by just refusing to agree that if they wanted you, they could. Like, motherfucker, you’re insulting me just by saying that you don’t want me, and you’re adding in the assumption that my dick is in control of me? GTFO.

    You know what’s funny though? Only ever had one stripper try that shit. Bounced gay bars and titty bars off and on for years. You’d think strippers would be more prone to that kind of thing than other professions. Not for me. I would get the whole “it’s a shame you’re such a good guy, I’d ruin you” here and there, bit that’s a whole different thing entirely.

    Ran into it most with nurses, but I worked in that field more than as a bouncer, so they’re disproportionately represented in the people I would have extended interactions with.

    I eventually learned to just say okay and walk away. That kind of thinking, there’s no point in arguing, and you can’t change the subject, so you just leave.

  • Skanky@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    The correct reply is…

    “There’s really only one way you could have me, and that is [describe whatever sort of sexual kink you’re into]. After that, I might consider it.”

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    11 months ago

    Well, the female friend basically said ‘I am so hot anyone I want (for example you) would love to have me as a girlfriend’.

    By denying that, he denied her self worth.

    Of course, her stance doesn’t take into account things like personal preference or matching personalities.

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    11 months ago

    IME the vast majority of women have no clue how to react to being rejected, because it almost never happens to them. As such, nearly all react badly or maladaptively regardless of conditions.

    Conversely, for most men they have to endure rejection hundreds if not thousands of times before they strike it lucky. The small cohort that become maladaptive do so due to other social/societal reasons associated with the rejection, but vanishingly few react maladaptively purely because of the rejection.

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      11 months ago

      Bruh, who the fuck is being rejected “hundreds, if not thousands” times? Maybe some people are, but thats such a red flag that I would argue then maybe they should change their approach in the first place.

      Maybe you are exaggerating (it just makes you sound a bit like an incel, apologies), and I probably would argue men do get rejected more then woman, because men are still (mostly) expected to make the first move, but like you don’t need experience handling rejection to not have a violent rage fit.

      Edit: I have read another one of your replies down the chain, and uh yeah you definitely do sound a lot like an incel.