Yes, death grip is real, and it sucks for the partner in your life, too. I’ve been with guys who’d death-gripped themselves out of enjoying the sensation of another’s body, and lemme tell you, having him go on for ages isn’t as fun as it sounds. As the partner, you start to feel like you’re not good enough, because nothing you do seems to get him off. Sex becomes less fun and more of a chore, to the point that you start to wonder why you’re bothering at all. You both know he’d get more pleasure from masturbating, so why even be involved?
I’ve had exes who tried to cut back on masturbation, take days off, and that’s just to bring back libido. But there is no quick solution, it takes time and careful self-monitoring to resensitize. I hope more people become aware of this phenomenon, take caution, and use lube when masturbating - because giving yourself intimacy problems before the age of 30 isn’t fun for anyone.
Yes, death grip is real, and it sucks for the partner in your life, too. I’ve been with guys who’d death-gripped themselves out of enjoying the sensation of another’s body, and lemme tell you, having him go on for ages isn’t as fun as it sounds. As the partner, you start to feel like you’re not good enough, because nothing you do seems to get him off. Sex becomes less fun and more of a chore, to the point that you start to wonder why you’re bothering at all. You both know he’d get more pleasure from masturbating, so why even be involved?
I’ve had exes who tried to cut back on masturbation, take days off, and that’s just to bring back libido. But there is no quick solution, it takes time and careful self-monitoring to resensitize. I hope more people become aware of this phenomenon, take caution, and use lube when masturbating - because giving yourself intimacy problems before the age of 30 isn’t fun for anyone.