some vrchat photos because it’s my post and I can do what I want B)
this is where I spent literally all of last night because I pulled an all nighter
I found some cool art and took a photo with it
after laying at the entrance of a club for several hours watching kids/drunks get denied entry and scream about it I found a cardboard cutout and posed with it
The whole point is talking to other people. At this point you can start 18 plus lobbies so you don’t have to deal with the children anymore. Most people spend time in game worlds, hangout worlds, and karaoke worlds.
Yes, but just like in real life, how do you find the chill, nice people in a sea of unsupervised children with ADHD, horny teenagers, and people that even I would call weirdo?
if you’re age verified the IMPERIUM group is pretty chill and easy to talk to, only 10-15 people are on at a time
The answer for me:
It took about 2 years to find my group. There were a lot of good memories and fun times along the way, but I eventually found my people.
One day in a random lobby I happened across a group of four or five people. We were chatting and having a good time, and they invited me off to whatever worlds they were going to. They eventually got me into their group of gaming nights and weekly hangouts. Through that group, I met who is now my best friend. She then got me into her group and I have since met a lot of people that are very dear to me.
I have been a part of a lot of groups in the past, but I could never truly call any of them my close friends. Now I have a handful of people that I would do just about anything for.
It’s not easy to meet people on VR chat, but, if you surround yourself with good people, you can eventually find your people.
The way I see it is you either frequent a group or game enough to make familiar faces or you bring some existing friends to hang out with. I play terrors a lot and have been in kid-free social groups like Ancients for about a year and have made a few friends.
I feel like this applies to breaking into any social setting, but I think a big thing you can do is just be somewhere regularly with consistency. It only took a few weeks of joining the most populated terrors instance (which is almost always under the group “fusion pilot fan club”) for the regulars to start recognizing me. Groups like Ancients are great kid-free spaces that aren’t specific to any interest, but there’s a lot of other interest-specific options that would speed up the process if you can find one that aligns with your interests, like clubbing groups, probably tons of board game groups, so many worlds have pool, darts chess, and various card prefabs so that’s very popular - I’m 99% sure there’s some chess meetups, movie watching groups (virtual theaters with spatial surround sound are really cool for this), lots of dancing groups because full body tracking can make that really fun, I’m sure anyone else could list more types of groups than me because I mostly play terrors and join ancients to be able to play a few games with full lobbies and no kids.
With all the effort and energy needed, it’s easier and cheaper to try making friends irl
Taxi to the bar $15 Drinks $45 Ride back $25
Buying the handle and drinking it for 2 months in VR $45. Being able to mute or block annoying, drunk people priceless.
Bar? I was think more of something like going to a public park or joining some activity maybe