Heres the thing: we don’t just know about your phobia. First im hearing of it. I still dont know for sure what it is. I can’t adapt to that.

And since phobias are definitionally irrational, i cant just logic it out. I literally can’t even try to accommodate you unless you ask and explain. If you can’t do that, i don’t think you can socialize.

And some of my irrational triggers aren’t bad things, i don’t ask people to accommodate them, because the world needs more of those things; i just cant with them. I handle it on my end.