Also where are the “think of the children” folks that are putting in the age verification laws. Shouldn’t they be concerned that a marketing agency built to profile individuals is privy to everything your kids do at school?

I’m in the process of getting this going in my lab. I appreciate these efforts to find alternatives.

That being said, can I get some opinions so I can pare down the list?

Would be great to have E2EE and audio. Video bonus. I don’t think I’ve got much in the way of preferences beyond that.

My latest leaning is hosting the Matrix protocol.

Also the only friends I have that would be willing to move off the easy corporate software are tech literate, so I have the option to distribute VPN confs and the like. Has anyone hosted chat over their own VPN, or does that just become a mess because STUN/TURN needs to be “free”?

(Sorry I’m still learning a lot here)