• chunes@lemmy.world
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    6 hours ago

    I’ve been in this literal exact situation. If it hadn’t happened 20 years ago I’d be worried this anon is talking about me

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      I love how autism has become this fetishized thing that you slap onto all people operating outside of expected parameters.

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          It is. It refers to things being held in special regard in social arrangements, to an religious extent. The autism discourse, with all the memes and such, does more often than not include a cult-like adherence to beliefs around certain behaviours that anyone could display, shifting focus away from the developmental aspects of autism which are very much real and to diagnostic markers that are less than well defined but are used in clinical settings like: trouble at work/school/kindergarten [Y/N], and certain things the hiveminds of the world latch onto. There I think of people regarding dislike of the “big” light as being an indicator for autism(???).

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            Either you’re using “literally” in a non-literal fashion, or you’re using it to make your statement even more incorrect.

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    I work with a guy like this. Lead his icebreaker with “I don’t understand people so don’t expect me to interact with you.”

    He’s the most brilliant person I’ve ever worked with. His knowledge is encyclopedic. He will show you how what you’re asking is idiotic in as few words as is necessary. He has no fear of manager or customer.

    He has my eternal allegiance.

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    11 hours ago

    Wouldn’t quite call this “gigachad” behavior, but it’s good and healthy to not jump on literally anyone who offers, even if you aren’t particularly interested. I suspect anon sees this as “gigachad” because they’re steeped in manosphere/incel ideology (unsurprising for a 4chan user).

    Definitely autistic, possibly including the woman.

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      Yeah I don’t associate being rude to someone that is awkwardly expressing an interest in you, cool, or alpha, or whatever the fuck gigachad is, it’s just a dick move, that will make that person expressing interest lose confidence to ask out the next person, which is a problem in today’s society more than ever with online dating kind of poisoning the well.

      There is a nice way to say no, and autism is no excuse for not being nice there.

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        We don’t know whether the guy already tried saying ‘no’ in a nice way, though. Sometimes people just don’t get the hint, especially if one or both people in the interaction are neurodiverse.

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          I suppose that’s true, but I know many people think their hints are obvious, when they aren’t to a great many of us, at least in the moment after the fact we might realize someone hinted at us. People are dense at times, not just autists either. So maybe they thought they had been clear in their rejection of their attention but it wasn’t picked up on?

          I mean I have been hit on by people I’ve no interest in, and I’ve never been so rude. I’ve also asked people out and had them rudely say no when a more polite way would have been appreciated, and they might have thought hints were clear, but they weren’t to me at all. And I’m not alone in being slow to take the hints, men in general are slow to get such hints by woman they are rather known for it as I understand it.