I absolutely do judge, because it doesn’t make them happy. At no point during their run on the approval-seeking treadmill of ‘gotta shave off another 0.3 seconds from my time, no wait, 0.4 seconds, no wait…’ do they actually have the briefest of moments where they can feel like they are just okay to be who they are. It’s painful for them to chase the carrot on a stick, vicariously painful for others to watch, and readily turns them into toxic people when they can’t get their fix.

The taco toots can be vicious.

‘Does that make him, like, the fairy godfathe–’

‘Do NOT let him hear you call him that!’

We get it. You’re a denizen of the internet. There’s no badge, so don’t wait by the mailbox. Now, can we get past repeating the same joke you and everyone else has read 1000 times?

Have to wonder what ‘acting like a jerk’ even means in this context.

Why so insecure?

Upbringing. That’s pretty much always the answer for this kind of thing. People learn what to expect from the world in their formative years. If they are taught by their community to expect pain, they will expect pain, and from there it’s just a question of their coping style, which is usually also taught to them. (Screaming, violence, substance dependency, etc.)