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To the ones upvoting this post: Do you, though?
I’ve politely asked people not to share blown up, screen-wide pictures on this site of my common phobia when it’s unrelated to the post and I’ve been straight up downvoted and insulted, being told I’m exaggerating and “defective”.
Phobias are not exaggerations, they can make people do shit because the reaction is visceral when unexpected. I get headaches and feel like shit after. One of my middle school teachers shared that she once almost jumped off a roof when she saw a cat behind her.
E: Aaaand downvotes. 😂 Practice what you preach.
Phobias are by their nature irrational, some level of personal responsibility falls on you to protect yourself when going online.
Yes, and I practice that but that’s not universal and there are many instances where that doesn’t work.
And I’d argue: why are we including blown-up, close-up, screen-wide images to posts of interest about programming when the image is completely unrelated? Articles about Python are especially egregious.
I ask precisely because it’s out of my control.
Heres the thing: we don’t just know about your phobia. First im hearing of it. I still dont know for sure what it is. I can’t adapt to that.
And since phobias are definitionally irrational, i cant just logic it out. I literally can’t even try to accommodate you unless you ask and explain. If you can’t do that, i don’t think you can socialize.
And some of my irrational triggers aren’t bad things, i don’t ask people to accommodate them, because the world needs more of those things; i just cant with them. I handle it on my end.
Yes, unfortunately, you’re reading the consequence of me having already advocated for this sort of thing with people being less than friendly, and now me bitching about it and getting my ass handed to me.
Anyway, the only thing I’m asking for is not to include huge pictures of common phobias. You know, a small subset of animals and obvious themes like evil clowns in places where they don’t belong. So that’s three fair qualifiers:
- huge pictures
- super common things known to be phobias, as suffered by roughly 20% of the population
- put in places where they have no logical reason to be
This is a fair request, and I’m not asking for anything else. If you consider this scenario, I don’t think I’m asking for anything unreasonable. I can handle everything else.
